Sunday, May 15, 2016

I wish ...

 I wish …

1) ...that CUNY's contract negotiations are settled and in favor of giving educators fair pay!

2) ...I understood that when there is traffic, because of volume, if we all just kept moving, why is there traffic at all? 

3) ... my dogs knew how to do dishes. 

4) ... I could get Hamilton tickets.

5) ... chocolate was a necessary food group. 

6) … jeans were accepted professional attire.

7) … crossing a bridge brings you to a magical place. 

Tuesday, July 28, 2015



I am a driver. I am a driver in NYC. Not always, but often. I grew up right outside NYC in Westchester and have been driving into the city since I learned how to drive. 

I live in Northern Manhattan now and I noticed that no matter how long I look for parking, 10 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 minutes, no matter how long, when I actually find a spot, I feel like such a winner, like I just won a huge award! 

It is a great feeling.  I wish I could capture this feeling and bottle it. What a high, even if brief and short lived, it makes me so happy.  So I thought, when else do I feel this way? 

The Tupperware drawer! Whenever my Tupperware drawer in my kitchen seems to be organized - I feel like a winner. 

Whenever I go to the laundry room and get all five machines – able to do five loads of laundry in the time it takes to do one – I feel like a winner.

I am sure many of this have experienced this one – whenever you find money in your laundry – in the pocket of your jeans or a shirt!  You feel like a winner.

What makes these moments so profound – and each of these moments, although some can be relatable – each of these moments are so personal to each of us.  And then I started to think – would we be happier people if we were able to find this in our day to day lives? 

So join me in this challenge – find one thing each day – that makes you feel like a winner?  Try to do it for a week, 30 days and then a reflect upon how that feeling has changed your daily outlook?

So take the challenge.  Take a picture of your winner moment and either tweet it or post on Facebook or Instagram and hashtag it #imawinnerchallenge and you can also follow my Celebrate Life page on Facebook for more inspiration and share it there! Be a Winner! 

Good luck!


Thursday, November 13, 2014

What fairy tale character are you?

So what fairy tale character are you?

I’ve become a little obsessed with the ABC TV Show Once Upon A Time.  The parallel between the two lives that certain characters lead in Storybrooke and in the Enchanted Forest show character traits that we can all relate to.

And hope…there is always hope!

I started to think about who is it that I relate to the most…and I landed on the evil queen.  Not because I think I am a mean person but because I saw a side of her that is always searching for her happy ending.

I know that many fairy tales are violent some of them even based on stories that have been passed down.  And I thought, what can we learn from them?

Maybe it is to have hope and keep that hope even when really really really bad things happen.

Or maybe sometimes life is just a good story.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

Change of Season

Change of Season

With the changing of the season’s I was thinking a lot about Pavolov’s Law

Ivan Pavlov  is a Russian physiologist known primarily for his work in classical conditioning; that is a kind of learning that occurs when a conditioned stimulus is paired with an unconditioned stimulus.

I often think about how that applies to my puppies – or dogs- as now they have reached a more senior age at 7 and 10 years old. 
In training, Pavlov’s law applies to help manage relationship between myself and Jack and Ginger.   It works – when I say look at me, they both know if they successfully look at me, at some point, there is a much coveted treat waiting for them.

And as the temperature dropped to the low 70’s last night… and I could feel the crisp autumn air – on it’s way – I know that the summer is slowly coming to an end. That crispness, and the lack of humidity, the smell of the soon coming leaves turning…it clicks on something in me. 

Immediately I am full of hope and wonder. The upcoming school year, the season, the hope, like anything is possible. It gives a glimmer of some excitement more than at any other time of the year. The start of a new – even more than at New Year’s! 
It’s a restored sense of energy that the universe seems to be sending my way.

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes:

“Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird,
That cannot fly.”

Sunday, August 17, 2014

7 key things I learned this summer

My summer is just about over – back to work, back to the grind and back to the shimmy that encompasses most of my year.  I enjoyed so many moments this summer and learned so much. 

Some of my highlights: walking the Highline, St. John’s the Divine, walking in Inwood Hill Park, taking the subway to places I’ve only driven to, Yankee Stadium, feeling sand between my toes, Spa Castle, playing I spy with my niece, laughing out loud with a 4 year old so hard that your belly hurts and so many more.

After much reflection - Here are 7 key things I’ve learned:

First cherish myself and the life I have
Although at times it can be a challenge. How many of us fall into this? I mourn the life I thought I’d have, I compare myself to others, and I am saddened by the things I have not accomplished rather than those accomplishments that I have.

Second, keep your friends close
There are the friendships – the ones I thought I had, but learned was not the way I thought it might be – and of course the friendships I have, that are more solid than I ever thought it could be, even though I might not see or speak to these friends often. 

Third, Realizing that I can only give what I have in my soul
No more, no less, and sometimes what I have to offer is not appreciated – and so you let go and that can be difficult, and realizing also that sometimes people are meant to come into your life for a reason, for a period of time, and it’s ok.  But that I shouldn’t, I can’t (I’m exhausted) change for anyone…and if you don’t like it – you are entitled – but there’s the door! I’m not a super hero…

Fourth, appreciate the moment that I arrive somewhere new
The moment before I step into it, the moment I am filled with wonder and query…that moment, THAT moment that keeps my heart racing and my mind curious – that moment feeds my soul …I need more of those moments.

Fifth, every experience has bliss
Every moment has the opportunity to find happiness.  I just have to take the moment and find it. I have to take the moment and be open to it. I have to not be afraid to be happy.

                                                                                    Sixth, taking risks lead to joy

Whether in work or play – I am served best by risk taking.  I have never been someone who is afraid of hard work. I have never been afraid of a challenge. But a risk has always been scary to me…and I learned this summer, that my instincts never steer me wrong.  Risks can lead me to new doors opening.

Seventh, breathe

I learned to just breathe.

"Life is just a journey" Princess Diana

Monday, March 31, 2014

I did it!

If I were to ask you in this moment to describe yourself what would you say?

If I were to ask you in this moment to look at a mirror and describe what you see what would you say?

Many people are critics of others and many people are able to “see” the achievements of others, but not of themselves.

Why is that?

We take time in our jobs to reflect on what needs to be done better and done tomorrow, but do we take the time to say “I did it!”

I know I am guilty of this.  It is so easy to look in the mirror and see the flaws rather than the accomplishment and the successes!  Even when everyone else might be saying “great work” or “you look fantastic” I would lose sleep over something I might have missed at work or something I could have done better. I’m sure we are all guilty of this.

And it slowly chipped away my self-confidence.  And then of course there are the “nay-sayers” that are there just waiting to see you do this…waiting to see you fall.

And then I realized the importance of focusing on my achievements and successes no matter how small and how insignificant to others, celebrate it. 

Rather than looking at how much further I must travel on the journey, I look at how far I have come, albeit in my own time. 

The power of a positive mindset starts with giving yourself a pat on the shoulder and saying “I did it!”